Oh Hello there! Lets dive right on in on my 20 Ways To Bounce Back When You Feel Like Everything Is Going Wrong! Im sure most of you like myself have had those days, months or even years when it seems that there’s nothing but problem after problem. It seems like those problems threaten to knock us down and stop us from moving forward.
When you feel like everything goes wrong, we may be caught unawares. Times like these can blindside us, but this doesn’t always stop us from saying that we should have seen it coming. Maybe we did see it coming but didn’t want to believe it. This can push us into a shame or blame whirlwind.
However it happened, you CAN keep it together when everything seems to be going wrong, and you can emerge from difficult situations much wiser and stronger.
When everything goes wrong, remember:
- Everything is temporary, even whatever it is that is happening to you.
- Happiness is a result of your approach to life, not what happens to you.
- The things, even those that seem small, that are going right in your life.
- The people who are in your corner.
- What you care about most and what you can let go of.
- That you ultimately choose how you react.
- Your resilience in other tough situations.
- Bad times don’t define you, but your approach does.
- Worrying, anger, complaining, denial or any of the infinite other ways we try to circumvent pain when things go wrong won’t change the situation.
Don’t:
- Panic or get too far ahead of yourself.
- Go immediately to blame and criticism.
- Lash out.
- Self-destruct or numb yourself.
- Neglect your needs.
- Ignore your intuition.
- Focus on what should have been instead of what is.
- Try to control what is out of your control.
- Remind yourself of every other terrible thing that has ever happened to you.
- Ask “what if” or “why me” without also reminding yourself of what’s possible and what makes you strong.
- Focus on others’ opinions, because they’re a reflection of the speaker, not you.
- Worry about who you are or are not impressing.
- Isolate.
Do:
- Accept! I repeat ACCEPT! and then ACCEPT AGAIN
- Stick to the present. Rather than worrying about the future or dwelling on the past, focus on what is actually happening now and what is actually in your power to do now.
- Focus on realistic expectations for yourself .
- Focus on what you can and what you cannot change.
- Take one step, then another. Even if they’re just baby steps, keep moving.
- Rather than focusing on the worst case, think instead of what else is possible.
- Look for the lesson.
- Keep a positive attitude by remaining focused on solutions, skills, and strengths.
- Start small. and just start somewhere
- Spend time with the people who support you!
- Appreciate the things going well, savor simple pleasures, and try to find the hidden gifts in the difficult times.
- Take care of yourself! however you feel like you need to!
- Treat yourself with respect and love
- Rejuvenate rather than simply tuning out or unplugging.
- Ask for help
- Consult with a close friend
- Take the steps you need to keep working toward what you want in life.
- Sometimes we are too close to a situation to see it for what it is. Try looking at the situation from someone else’s point of view.
- Give it the test of time. Ask yourself if this will mean the same thing in one, five, or 10 years.
- Move, your body that is. Get moving to discharge energy. Walk 10 minutes in any direction starting wherever you are then turn around. Go for a swim. Plan a hike.
I hope that this resonates with some of you and helps you get out of a negative funk or inspires you to do something awesome with your life! Please share this post and lets Make 2020 the best year you have ever had!
Bodies By David 